Tuesday, March 08, 2011

Embracing my 40's- I Think!

  In our thirties we start to realize who our friends really are, start to identify our values and come into our own.  By the time you turn 40 you've learned a great many things. Here are a few..
My 20’s:
  I spent it trying to decide what I wanted to do and going to college to figure that out.

My 30’s:
  Was trying to figure out my life and what I wanted.. Family, marriage.. decided that most of that really wasn’t for me.

The 80’s and stuff:
  I lived through the 80’s the first time, that means I’m smart enough to avoid hideous style revivals like luminous clothes, big hair and leg warmers. Ish!

  I have more concert choices than the kids today, why?  Can we say "Reunion Tours"?

What is your style?
  I’ve worn the same stuff since junior high/high school.. Some sort of boot or tennis shoe, usually cowboy boots or converse all-stars (bought my first pair in 1983!), a t-shirt or t-shirt with a jacket, flared jeans.

How has your style changed over the years? 20's to 40's?
  It hasn’t really. I still have the same “rocker” style that’s reflected in the female rock chicks of the 80’s; Joan Jett, Pat Benatar. I remember getting shit for how I dressed in high school and college, and now it’s cool. Styles rotate it seems every 10 yrs or so.. Not too long ago the Romantic look was in and it was also in style back in the 70’s.

Was turning 40 scary, thrilling, both, and why?
   It is/was scary for me. I don’t like the idea of getting older. I’ll probably end up like Joan Rivers, with plastic surgery up the wazoo! I feel hotter in my 40’s and more secure about myself physically. I understand now that I’m built the way I am and to maintain that I need to eat right and exercise. That acting and feeling younger is very reflective on how you look. So don’t be looking for me to grow up and settle down anytime soon!

“Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, beverage of choice in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ~ "WOO HOO, what a ride!"- Unknown

Do you think there are any rules to dressing in your 40s?
  I think body type. I mean my legs aren’t the greatest and are a bit chubby, so you won’t see me wearing short skirts and shorts. It would just look tacky and like I’m not dressing for my body type.

Do you have anything in your closet you'll never stop wearing, no matter how old you are?
  Some old worn v neck men’s t-shirts that I bought when I was in high school and the concert shirts from the concerts I’d been too. There’s something very cool about walking around in a 1984 Van Halen t-shirt with the concert dates on the back. It shows you actually know who they are and who originally was in the band! My custom black cowboy boots I had made in 2009. The more you wear them the more soft and worn they become. Silver and black beaded necklace I bought in bong shop for $10. when I was in college. It makes me feel young. 1969 Flared jeans from the Gap. I’ve always worn Gap jeans because I’m very unproportionate, my butt and legs are a bit bigger and Gap flares seem to even me out a bit more.

  My relationships are another area that I am examining. I need to make sure that those people in my life know how important they are to me. I have a large number of acquaintances, but only a few true and close friends. Those friends have made a huge impact on how I live my life and some of the decisions that I have made over the years. They need to be recognized as the truly vital part of whom I am and who I will yet to become. My ex-Paul is one of the most important people in that category. I have known him for almost 25 years and I know that no matter what I do, struggles, changes etc he will never judge me and will always be there, period. People may come and go in my life, but he is one person that I will know for the rest of my life, he is like my family. Mike, Rich, Jason, Jerry, Victoria; they are the friends that are like my family as well. I know that they will always love me for me, and though we don’t speak to each other often, there is never a doubt we are friends.

Who inspires you in terms of how they dress and carry themselves?
  Joan Jett- even at 60 her style is very rocker/punk, very simple. Granted you’re not gonna see me in leather pants, but I’ll definitely wear a leather motorcycle jacket.

  Stevie Nicks- all through the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s she still had the same style and it came back around. Now her platform boots are becoming a style must have.

What's the one amazing thing you've learned about yourself ?
  I’m very simple. The way I live, tastes, friendships and relationships. It doesn’t take much to make me happy. I feel the best thing to do for someone is to try and support them in whatever they do. There are so many people that do things and go unnoticed. I’m my harshest judge.

What's the best thing about being in your 40s?
  I know stuff (wink), stuff I didn’t when I was younger, it’s like my 20’s but on crack!


You’re never too old to rock n’ roll!
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